DO’s and DON’Ts for wedding guests
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When your friends or family get married, there are all kinds of wedding etiquette and rules that govern their behavior. But did you know there are rules for wedding guests too? Reviewing these wedding etiquette do’s and don’ts will ensure that you don’t inadvertently commit a faux pas at your loved one’s affair.
General Wedding Etiquette:
- DO RSVP promptly. The couple will be making many decisions based on the number of people who are able to attend the wedding. The head count affects how many seats are needed, how many favors must be purchased, how many meals the caterer should prepare… If you must cancel your RSVP after you have accepted an invitation, do so as soon as possible. The couple may have some time before they need to provide final numbers to the caterer. If something comes up last minute however, don’t call the guests of honor—they’ll be too busy with last minute preparations and details. Send a thoughtful email apologizing for your absence instead.
- DON’T bring a gift to the wedding, though cards with checks or cash are appropriate. You may choose to have the wedding gift shipped to the couple’s home before or after the wedding day. In fact, you have up until a year after the wedding to give a gift. Bringing a gift with you means that someone in the wedding party will have to worry about how to get it home.
- DO send a gift even if you do not attend. While wedding gifts are not required, it is customary to send a gift to the happy couple, even if you do not attend the wedding. At the very least, a thougtful card expressing your well wishes is a must.
- DO dress appropriately. The dress code may be listed on the wedding invitation. If not, you may pick up cues from the time of day and the formality of the invitation and venue, to determine what attire is appropriate. If you are still stumped, or you are uncertain what “Island Casual Attire” means, reach out to a member of the bridal party or visit the couple’s wedding website for clarification.
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